I recently read a
Divorce Custody decision in which there was an overabundance of proof that the Mother had grossly
and maliciously interfered with the
children's affections for their Father. Prior to the divorce he was a good husband and father but the Mother
turned three of the children against their father (one became over 18)
that the younger two who were in or near their teens had adopted the vilification
of the Father and wished him dead. They refused any and all contact. The
children had court appointed attorneys, there were therapists involved,
a custody psychologist, interviews of the children with the Judge, Child
Protective Services Investigations, Police Reports were the Mother drove
the children to the police station and pretended she was just providing
a ride, each side had changed lawyers multiple times and the trial lasted
for over 12 days not counting the years of litigation leading up to trial.
The Judge came to the realization that in his opinion and based upon what
the forensic had reported and suggested that even isolating the mother
from the children for 6 months could not undo the damage. The boys would
hate their father even more. HOWEVER, the Judge awarded the Father custody
of the even younger daughter thus splitting the children because it was
the only way to try and prevent the Mother from doing the same thing to
The summary above is abbreviated and may vary slightly from the lengthy
detailed decision but the point is that if you have parents who just want
to fight and ruin their lives and their children's lives sometimes
even the judges cannot undo the damage.
Parents who refuse to pay
child support or hide their income do damage of a different type and the courts have
certain powers but again if someone is willing to throw their own life
away for spite the courts eventually exhaust their powers as well.
The best advice is to think of your children and how to help them grow
up with two parents and two families after divorce. Be proud of what has
been accomplished not what was destroyed.