If you wouldn't due your own surgery you surely shouldn't try to
do your own
divorce. Hiring an attorney to guide you through one of life's most difficult
moments makes sense but hiring an experienced divorce attorney is really
the smart thing to do.
People who try to represent themselves usually become clients of mine when
they either can't complete the large amount of paperwork necessary
to process an uncontested divorce or they come in afterwards because their
spouse had an attorney and they didn't and now they have become aware
that the "uncontested agreement" that they signed is not fair.
What usually goes wrong is that the amount of money being paid for
child support, child care and "extras" is not calculated fairly or properly
for the paying spouse. The
parenting schedule does not provide the proper amount of parenting time and does not address
the school recesses, holiday or summer schedules properly. If there is
a house involved the payment of expenses must be properly set forth and
if the house is to be sold provisions are necessary regarding the listing
price and reductions if necessary. If there is a
pension is the value properly calculated and if there is a QDRO to be prepared
who is doing it, who is paying for it and is the non-working spouse protected properly?
Equally significant is that an experienced divorce attorney can tell you
what you should get or what you have to do and what you don't have
to do. The years of experience not just as an attorney but as a matrimonial
attorney will provide you with the real life knowledge of how the courts
typically decide cases.
I know my limitations when it comes to fixing things in my home and that
is why I hire a plumber, electrician, an accountant to prepare my taxes
and see a doctor rather than try and find the answers and how to do it
all on the Internet.
An attorney will not have the same emotional upset that clients going through
a divorce often feel and the attorney will be able to give unemotional
but practical advice.
Using professionals is necessary for so many things in life and a divorce
which is one of life's biggest decisions should be handled with the
same professional skills that you would consider for lesser problems.